willpower vs. willingness

rather than willpower which tends to have a negative connotation and usually means success or failure with not much in between

think in terms of willingness understanding your behavior learning to practice self care making inquiries with an open mind resolving those underlying conflicts using all that you have to live

willingness = not avoiding and it's a far more valuable ally

you cannot control events or change them but you can control your reactions to them you decide, you're in charge

questions: 1. what is "the next step" that you've been avoiding? 2. what keeps you from just going after it? 3. other than eating, what do you do to avoid? 4. how can you create a life that is so fabulous you don't want to avoid it?!

do it today give yourself a chance today don't throw away the opportunity of today don't decide you won't try today "just do it" (nike)

remember, today is not promised  "we must live each day as if it were the only one we had" (elisabeth kubler-ross)

today does matter "how much of human life is lost in waiting" (ralph waldo emerson)

regarding personal issues . . .  what to do with them, about them?

there is fear around opening the floodgates but we can approach our issues one at a time, in doable amounts

we all have "issues" they are part of the human condition as fellow human beings, we are all on the same page, on the same path

the difference is how they manifest in our lives

and there is an added difficulty when your issues manifest in food-related ways they are visible to the outside world society is able to witness some of your pain and, since it is publicly displayed, it can become an "issue" in itself then there is one more thing to work on, to deal with

but rarely are the problems about food or eating

they're about finding answers to the questions that you have learning to confront those emotions that you're hiding from feeling good about yourself living a better life

i would like for all of you to be at your individual "happy weight" but even more . . . i want you to truly appreciate how unique and valuable and interesting you are i want you to take good care of yourselves and say nice things to yourselves

i want you to find and nurture your essence 

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